Ask HN: Help – Locked out of 10 years Gmail account
schiffern
3 years ago
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Due to the recent LastPass debacle, I decided to cycle my Gmail passwords. Boy that was a mistake!!

Gmail has decided that I can't log in with "just" my password. The new password is correct. It then asks me for my old password, which I put in correctly. Then it tells me I can't log in anyway. :(

Occasionally it will give me a QR code to scan. But I can't scan it on my phone, since my phone is logged out.

I can't log in to my recovery account, because (like a fool) I changed the passwords simultaneously. Now both are locked.

Somebody help! My account name is [redacted]@gmail.com (the recovery email should match my HN username). I'm locked out of a decade+ of correspondence, recovery, and historical data.

meindnoch3 years ago
I’ll forward this to my friends at Google if you promise that you stop using Google products.
schiffernmeindnoch3 years ago
Anything!

Please let them know my recovery account (another gmail, FirstnameLastname) is also locked.

Edit: I'm back in to my recovery account!! Just enabled 2FA to avoid getting locked out again.

My main account is still locked, but it let me verify via my old password, new password, and recovery email code. The message says that they still need to verify more, but I should look for an email to login within 48 hours.

Fingers crossed!

schiffern schiffern3 years ago
Thanks for everyone's help. Backup email works now. Looks like (fingers still crossed) I'll be getting back into my main account in 48 hours.

Obviously I'm re-working my email solution as we speak... starting with backing up my Google data!

Lots of good recommendations in this thread. Learn from my mistakes. It can happen to you!!

joenot443 schiffern3 years ago
I was about to take out my work (G) laptop and send this down the appropriate channels. Very glad to see someone else stepped in already.

This is definitely I (personally) wish we could do better, I feel embarrassed and very slightly partially responsible whenever I see our support failures making the front page of HN.

chappi42joenot4433 years ago
Thank you!
romanhnjoenot4433 years ago
Hi there! I hate to pile on, but I have a very similar issue and was wondering if you'd be willing to help. About a year and a half I lost access to a Gmail account with emails going back all the way to the beginning. Lots of sentimental messages, stuff like that. Logged into it after a long while, started looking at picture attachments out of nostalgia and somehow tripped an algorithm that locked me out. I stupidly did not have 2FA set up as this was not my primary account, so had no other way to offer proof that I was the rightful owner, despite having the correct password. I tried all the usual things - waiting a long time, trying old devices (phone, laptop), going back to the old location I used to live... nothing worked. Would love to regain access to years of memories.
Jabbles schiffern3 years ago
What did you do? What worked?
lucidguppymeindnoch3 years ago
What email service do you use?
Jabbles3 years ago
bmitcJabbles3 years ago
Interesting how all those frame it as the user’s fault.
schiffernJabbles3 years ago
Trying this now.

Edit: the closest solution is to try account recovery, which is what I was doing. :(

I don't want to "spam" the recovery form, since I suspect that will only make it worse.

Edit2: trying Gmail app and Google Authenticator now, to see if that makes a difference. Will update with progress.

Edit3: no dice. Gmail app just loops me to a message saying "Google couldn't verify that this account belongs to you." Clicking on Verify account just loops me back to the login. It doesn't even ask for my old password like before.

I feel sick to my stomach...

BaudouinVH schiffern3 years ago
- I had similar trouble accessing my facebook account - the FB recovery process involved me holding some valid ID in front of my webcam. Could Google have something similar ? (Access was restored swiftly)

- Have you, by any chance, stored some google recovery codes somewhere ?

- Isn't there a "call me and read me a one-time six-figure code" option available in all the login/authenticate option Google provides ?

hope it helps

vertis schiffern3 years ago
Be calm. You may be locked out, but sometimes it just takes time to get back in.
jeffbee schiffern3 years ago
Are you or can you try to make sure that your behavior is s close to normal as possible? If you normally access your account from Chrome, use Chrome. If you normally use macOS use it. If you normally have a static address at home, use it.

Trying to recover your account from your friend’s house in another country, or whatever, could be making it worse.

usr1106jeffbee3 years ago
My IPv4 address at home has not changed for over 10 years. My IPv6 address at work has not changed for 4 years (modulo privacy entension). I have not used any public hotspot for at least 5 years. Still Google greets me several times a month welcome on your new Linux computer. Yes, I use Cookie Auto Delete. But if they had had reasonable algorithms, they would long have learned that I never have their surveillance history when logging in.
Technetiumusr11063 years ago
You can't remove the data that keeps you signed in, then turn around to say their sign-in algorithms should be better.
lrei3 years ago
Yikes! good luck, hope it works out. This is scary. Gmail is still, by far, the best email app. Something like this could happen to me and, I suspect, a lot of other people.
9991lrei3 years ago
The best email app wouldn't ban you for an emoticon in Youtube chat or sending a medical photo to your doctor.
lrei99913 years ago
These ToS, CSAM, moderation, etc are very orthogonal to the app itself. Why conflate them? Most non-hackernews people are completely unaware of them, so it won't be a factor in their choice of platform. Are we even sure other apps aren't doing similar things? Or have equally dangerous practices around password changes?
9991lrei3 years ago
Because the user experience is that it doesn't work.
cromka99913 years ago
This is just crass. There's plenty of very good software with shitty T&C, this isn't anything new.
9991cromka3 years ago
I dare you to find those examples in the Terms and Conditions.
nix23lrei3 years ago
>Gmail is still, by far, the best email app

True, no mails no problems, it's a feature not a bug.

sshinelrei3 years ago
> Gmail is still, by far, the best email app.

I used to think so when I used Gmail.

But switching to Fastmail, I no longer agree that it is "by far" the best. Now I think Gmail is only better by a slight margin, and this margin is so small that it does not justify the drawbacks: Potentially getting locked out with no recourse, certainly getting everything you receive scanned to deliver you the best possible ads, contribute to the email monopoly where the big players decide the protocols.

timrichardlrei3 years ago
I know it seems lo-tech, but it's a good idea to print out the ten Gmail recovery codes and keep them in a safe place. I've done the same for GitHub too.
GoOnThenDoTelltimrichard3 years ago
We’ve gone full circle to the the idea of post-it note credentials
timrichardGoOnThenDoTell3 years ago
That's where 'safe place' comes in. It's the intended use of backup codes.
incrudiblelrei3 years ago
> Gmail is still, by far, the best email app.

I find this opinion absurd. It is an e-mail client. Even if it did perform the tasks that an e-mail client needs to perform somewhat better than all other clients, the loss of autonomy makes it a terrible deal, even for non-technical users.

nikanj3 years ago
I love how the HN front page is the only way to reach a human at Google. No amount of money can get you a support ticket opened with an actual person in a situation like this
trolliednikanj3 years ago
Google One might have helped. https://one.google.com/about/support
theCrowingtrollied3 years ago
It doesn't anymore the trick with buying from the store also doesn't work anymore you get in the same q as everyone else after the hardware and one teams told you they can't help.
pentium10trollied3 years ago
Google One support only works if you can login.
yucky3 years ago
I've been locked out of 17 year old gmail account for awhile now because I refuse to sync my phone to it. I only want to login to delete the contents and deactivate the account. It still forwards to my Thunderbird which is how I noticed Google stops dedicating spam protection to un-synced accounts (or something). So, they want me to go away, and I want to go away, but they won't let me go away.
danukeryucky3 years ago
> to delete the contents and deactivate the account

Are you in the EU? Google's DPO or your country's data protection authority might want to hear about it.

jesprenjdanuker3 years ago
Maybe he doesn't want to send them a copy of his national ID for the sake of privacy.

Are privacy guidelines in EU countries so well defined that they take terms such as "password for an online service" into their vocabulary?

ashwoodsjesprenj3 years ago
They might not explicitly, but you have the right to take any data you have or they might have on you of any service, no matter if you have an account or not: aka right of access. I don’t know if it has been used this way, but it might be a possibility.
yuckydanuker3 years ago
Nope, I'm in the US and here in the US Google acts as an extension of our intelligence agencies so we have no recourse. They're effectively part of the surveillance state, thus untouchable.
jesprenjyucky3 years ago
In ~2014 when I didn't have a phone yet (being a child) they deleted my account on account of not having a phone number associated for some weeks.

Even though postfix brings me headaches sometimes, seeing issues people have with google seems as setting it up was a step in the right direction.

Double_a_92yucky3 years ago
> Google stops dedicating spam protection to un-synced accounts

The spam filter just broke at some time in the last year. I get 1-2 obvious trash spam in my inbox every day. Literally things with a subject like "You _WON_ !! ** our give_away!"

bryan0yucky3 years ago
> I noticed Google stops dedicating spam protection to un-synced accounts (or something).

It’s not just you. Their spam filtering has been broken in general for a while now. Not sure what’s going on. I wonder if the volume of spam has just hit some critical threshold where it costs too much to process every incoming message.

manholio3 years ago
You don't matter for Google and creating HN spam threads won't change that. At worst, it will solve your particular problem and invite similar spam threads from other victims of faceless corporations.
fsflovermanholio3 years ago
Such topics help more people realize that Google should not be trusted with managing their emails (or anything really). More threads like this:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31782952

maxprofsflover3 years ago
This!

I wanted to switch from Google few times (always postponed it to a "next time"), but reading this today I realized how devastating it would be to get locked out. So in the next few days I will move away from Gmail.

3233 years ago
My strategy is to only use GMail and no other Google service at all (cloud, ads, ...)

This way there is little possibility of somehow being labeled as fraudulent.

kevin_thibedeau3233 years ago
This. I also deny them data collection by not being logged in on my primary browser since I don't use any other service. I originally started doing that when they began to break Gmail performance in Firefox and had to access via Chrome but now it's out of spite.
Alex39173 years ago
The longer it's been since anyone has logged in, the more confidence Google will have that it's really you trying to log in. In all likelihood you'll be able to get back in within a couple weeks.
schiffernAlex39173 years ago
I hope you're right! If that doesn't work, it's all gone. It's not like I can "just" get to the front page again.
shoAlex39173 years ago
This saved me during my big scare about a year ago when I suddenly found myself locked out of an important account with no way to get back in (phone number was old and inaccessible). The password was fine, they just didn't believe it was me for some reason.

A few months later it suddenly worked again, and I seized that opportunity to move permanently away from gmail. I was lucky. I do not want my access to my online identity to be governed by luck, however, so really advise anyone who will listen to make the move before this kind of sob story happens to them.

"It won't happen to me" - I thought that too, and no doubt so did the OP. Won't it? How much will it cost you if you're wrong?

It now costs me $50/yr to know it won't happen to me and I'm more than happy to pay a fair price for a good product, like I do for everything else.

morschsho3 years ago
How does paying 50 bucks a year give you that peace of mind? What kind of recovery procedures do providers like fastmail have?
Throwawayaerleimorsch3 years ago
Real, intelligent people for customer support (well, the last time I needed any, which was years ago). You are paying for the service and it's not cheap although also not expensive compared to normal things you also need like Internet service (using US prices). GMail is normally "free," you are the product, and customer support and caring about customers is simply not in Google's DNA. Which we can see in too many of their paid services.

The real protection is to get your own domain which Fastmail of course supports, so you can point it at a different email provider if worst comes to worst, like ajross's plausible proposition that:

"[...] I'd put the odds of Fastmail failing entirely as a business rather higher that those of any single user having an unresolvable 2FA glitch with a gmail account. In the world of real data and not anecdata, Big Tech is incredibly reliable."

shoThrowawayaerlei3 years ago
> I'd put the odds of Fastmail failing entirely as a business rather higher that those of any single user having an unresolvable 2FA glitch with a gmail account

Well that's funny, because I see a desperate post by a gmail user with an unresolvable 2FA glitch (except by screaming for help on tech-oriented forums hoping someone will notice) basically every week, and yet somehow Fastmail isn't out of business yet. And who knows how many "normies" without an HN/Twitter megaphone just silently lose access, weep a bit and give up?

I have no doubt that Google won't actually lose my email data, but if I can't access it and have no recourse then there's no difference in practise.

CatWChainsawsho3 years ago
What product are you using now?
jjconAlex39173 years ago
Interesting - took my account three years to let me back in. Was happy it finally did though
pcthrowawayAlex39173 years ago
This is unfortunately not true (for me anyway).

I have an alt gmail account that I used less frequently. 3.5 years ago I was abroad right after the first wave of COVID, and logging in from a new laptop (no longer have the old one). When I tried logging in with the correct password, it told me I needed to verify an SMS to an old phone number I haven't used in 10 years (7 at the time I suppose).

Every now and then I'll try logging in hoping they realize that the account is mine, since I have the password, and no one else is logging in (hopefully).

Unfortunately, nothing changes, I still get the requirement to verify with a second device, and I never configured a recovery email for that account.

One day I'm hoping someone will register the old phone number, and I'll be able to smooth talk them into passing the confirmation code to me.

anterAlex39173 years ago
Not necessarily. I've two accounts that I couldn't access for multiple years now, google simply refuses to let me in despite having all of the correct credentials.

For anyone reading this, do not rely on google services, you'll move cities, change your number, or as OP change your password and _you will get locked out_ with no recourse.

nonrandomstring3 years ago
> because (like a fool)

You are no fool. No doubt you are way above average intelligence. This so-called "security" ecosystem of Big-Tech is a dumpster fire of rotting clinical waste. Hope it doesn't spoil your holiday break - and for goodness sake make a New Year Resolution - to quit this madness forever.

makachnonrandomstring3 years ago
I started working with security to help avoid these kind of scenarios to happen. No doubt gmail is adding controls to their service without fully considering the implications. When security locks you out of your content it is a non-conformity that should be resolved asap zulu.
stanleydrewnonrandomstring3 years ago
This is an unfortunate situation, but calling it a "dumpster fire of rotting clinical waste" is frankly absurd. Google in particular has done more than anyone to acclimate consumers to the usage-patterns of better auth (two-factor in particular). Is everything perfect? Of course not, but things are a lot better than they could be.
tester457stanleydrew3 years ago
I thought it was actually 2 step. The difference always confused me.
joxelstanleydrew3 years ago
Nah, this is a complete farce. You’d think by this point google could offer a simple checkbox in the settings of your gmail account:

“Do you want this account to be extra secure and for us to lock someone out of it with any activity deemed suspicious?”

And then when you don’t click that box they don’t arbitrarily lock your account. But they don’t. Because they’re a dumpster fire company.

stanleydrewjoxel3 years ago
I'm not going to try to convince anyone that has their mind made up about "dumpster fire" companies or whatever.

For anyone else reading, I'll just say that we all know there are tradeoffs between security and usability and we can actually have a good-faith discussion about that if we want to.

willhinsastanleydrew3 years ago
"Tradeoffs" that consumers don't get a say in. They don't deserve good faith discussions when they treat us like children and throw away the key when that infantilization destroys stuff in _our_ lives.
mindslightstanleydrew3 years ago
The problem is that this trade off is between your usability and Google's security, so the choice of their security wins out every time.

I have never bought into this regressive corporate security model in which my desktop computer is supposedly less trusted than assorted web app accounts. Unless I've opted in to something different, knowing the password should grant basically full access to the account. If there are additional rules around changing the password or other sensitive meta tasks, then those need to be spelled out in a well defined manner, and not punted to some opaque fickle machine learning scheme based on IP addresses, browser vulnerabilities, phase of the moon, etc.

shadowgovtmindslight3 years ago
It's between your usability and security and the integrity of Google's offering.

The lockouts are there because of how easy it is, without them, to compromise someone's email access. People leave their email password lying "in the open" all the time (for a very broad definition of "in the open" that includes things like "re-use it in another site that gets compromised, and use the same username on that site so a cross-site attack attempt is basically a free action for an attacker to take"). When a Gmail account is compromised, people lose everything digital because they've routed their entire digital security story through their Gmail and it's a trivial operation to harvest all that data once an attacker has access. So the damage to an individual is massive when a Gmail account is breached. And since Gmail doesn't actually know who a person is, correction of a breached account is extremely painful (consider, for every method Google might add to prove your identity to restore ownership of your account, how a malicious actor could use that approach to steal your account).

I've been on the receiving end of a Gmail lockout (cooked a phone on vacation while my OTPs were stored in an envelope at home), and it sucks. But it sucks less than having my whole digital life story (access to HN, access to every forum I'm on, access to every hosting service I work with, access to every bank account I own) compromised because that Gmail account is the receiving target for every "reset your password" flow of every service I operate with online, and I'm the average use case.

drivebycommentstanleydrew3 years ago
The pure, utilitarian calculation is rather simple. Anytime you beef up the security policy, it tends to decrease the (permanent) hijacking and increases the lockout. From the point of view of original owners access (i.e. availability), they are equivalent in terms of losing access to the account. Because the hijacking breaches the private information and it also gives hijacker further utility for other illegal activity, hijacking is worse in general.

Thus, as long as the total number of hijacking+lockout decreases, it is a useful policy from the utilitarian perspective. Of course, hijacked people don't cry for help as much, and neither they blame Google as much.

People think a better customer service would somehow solve the lockout problem, but they need to understand that customer service has the same hijacking vs lockout problem, and they can only help if they have better identity verification methods available to them - e.g. if Google asked for government ID for opening a Google account, this would work - but if Google did that, people would scream. Without properly established identity verification methods, the customer service can't improve the precision and the recall. Thus, the current choice for the users is to use a better identity verification method - like security keys and using Advanced Protection, as non-phishable auth does not need complex and elaborate heuristic based protection, and set up a chain of recovery accounts, with all accounts using the security keys and/or Advanced Protection.

user39393823 years ago
I made the jump to Fastmail and I'm very happy with it. Web interface is at least as good as Gmail's. Thunderbird keeps a local copy of my emails, I control the email domain. I can create backups. The second you get back in you gotta get off this platform.
Daniel_skuser39393823 years ago
The Apple Mail app on iOS and MacOS is pretty decent. No need to use the official Fastmail client (if you are on Apple and prefer the simple Apple alternative).
dontlaughDaniel_sk3 years ago
Also, iCloud+ allows the use of a custom domain. It may be an easier option for some.
danillonunesdontlaugh3 years ago
I believe the major problem is having your email attached to a big tech general account. If your son decides to download a pirated game to your iphone, out whatever other unrelated minor offense, and Apple determine it's worth nuking your entire account, your email is gone. Granted, Google is worse at this matters, and when you own the domain at least you can point it to somewhere else, but it's still a hassle.
hacymdanillonunes3 years ago
Does Apple have a history of doing that? This is the first time I’ve heard of that.
shepherdjerredhacym3 years ago
No
yumrajdanillonunes3 years ago
Even if that happens, it’s not a problem.

Why?

You go to your register and point your domain to another email provider, and you’re back in business.

rwalleyumraj3 years ago
Not a problem?

All your previous emails are lost, aren't they? Even you have local backup of them somehow, they are not equivalent to emails saved to your server?

xukirwalle3 years ago
If you have a local back up and the provider supports IMAP, you can just sync it back to the new provider.
edmundsautorwalle3 years ago
Losing backups is problematic, but IMO the bigger issue is losing access. I care 10x more about emails that I haven't received yet, compared to my history. I am still not wanting to lose that history... but it is just not as big a deal.
nephanthrwalle3 years ago
If you're using an email client, chances are you have an offline copy of your emails (depending on how you configured it)
yumrajrwalle3 years ago
The only way to cover that case is run your own mail server.

I've done that in the past, don't recommend it unless you have a real need and know what you're doing. It wasn't hard, but just extra work that I wasn't sure was worth it.

interactivecodedontlaugh3 years ago
Is it possible to recieve the icloud mail from a custom domain also in my non apple email app? For example on my desktop?
cjwitinteractivecode3 years ago
I recently switched things to an iCloud custom domain that I access through the Spark iPhone and macOS apps. It’s been an upgrade, though I’m still in the stage of finding and switching over accounts that use my gmail. I feel like that will never end.
shouser39393823 years ago
A big plus one to Fastmail (no economic link, just happy customer). I use the apple apps to access. I've never actually had any problem but I have confidence if I ever do, it will be solved quickly and painlessly by a human who cares because I'm a paying customer.

I don't know why we ever thought free email was a good idea. Of course Google doesn't care about a free email user. They're just another useless eater out of billions. And yet so many of us (me included, until switching) basically built our whole online existences around gmail.

Email is important. Important things are worth paying for. You have status and recourse if anything goes wrong. Gmail works until it suddenly doesn't and you are reduced to desperate moves like begging for relief on HN. Move away before that happens, and vote with your wallet for fair service for a fair price.

KMnO4sho3 years ago
> Of course Google doesn't care about a free email user

I pay $180/year for Google Workspace and Google still doesn’t care about me.

ticvikingKMnO43 years ago
Realizing that was when I moved on.

I'm looking for a good alternative to the office suite, Microsoft has better customer service but not by much and it's not always easy to use cross platform(I wind up using Win, Mac, and Linux weekly and play with FreeBSD occasionally

kybernetykuser39393823 years ago
To make the transition easier you can configure Gmail to automatically forward mails you your FastMail address. They all then appear in the fastmail acc and you don't have to touch Gmail ever again.
noisy_boykybernetyk3 years ago
Thats exactly what I do - get a bit tiring to manage emails on both side during the intermediate phase (which I'm still in) but I have already migrated most of my financial and government contacts to fastmail.
malepoon2noisy_boy3 years ago
I migrated the important stuff and then just incrementally moved things over whenever I happened to login somewhere. At this point, the only emails I get on Gmail are random crap I don't care about.

It's so nice to have my Gmail only for Android and other Google services. It was a big relief.

coffeefirstkybernetyk3 years ago
I also added a rule in Fastmail to automatically label things forwarded from Gmail. This became an easy map of what to update. In about 6 months almost nothing still comes to gmail.
toomuchtodokybernetyk3 years ago
Does Fastmail offer an option to set this up for you using the Gmail REST API after an import from Gmail into your Fastmail account? If not, please do so Fastmail folks if you read this!

https://developers.google.com/gmail/api/reference/rest/v1/AutoForwarding

P5fRxh5kUvp2thkybernetyk3 years ago
yep, I have 2 gmail accounts that have been forwarding to fastmail for something like 10 years now. I'm really unsure on the timeline, but it's been a very long time.

google is good at spam filtering so those accounts became the accounts I give out to people publicly.

frereubuuser39393823 years ago
The only thing that I find isn't as good about Fastmail is the spam filtering. I see more spam in my inbox and my spam folder than I did in Gmail, but despite that the trade-offs (particularly less of my data going through and sitting in Google's systems) still feel worth it.
noisy_boyfrereubu3 years ago
For me, it is the other way round - their spam filter is quite aggressive and I routinely find non-spam messages in the spam folder. Hopefully the training I'm providing makes the filtering better.
sphfrereubu3 years ago
That might not be the case, see here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34118182

tl;dr: Fastmail custom spam filtering needs some time to actually do anything. Now no more 2 spam emails a year get through the filter.

aendrukfrereubu3 years ago
Ironically Gmail is one is the largest sources of spam hitting me at Fastmail.
ajrossuser39393823 years ago
I make this point in most of these threads, but this is falling to an anecdata fallacy. Gmail is thousands or tens of thousands of times bigger than Fastmail[1]. When you have have a scale difference that large, you're going to have a huge, huge imbalance of problem reports like this that has nothing to do with actual reliability. All providers mess stuff up occasionally. Everyone has a customer support crisis at some point, with someone.

In point of fact I'd put the odds of Fastmail failing entirely as a business rather higher that those of any single user having an unresolvable 2FA glitch with a gmail account. In the world of real data and not anecdata, Big Tech is incredibly reliable.

[1] Which seems great, btw. I'm actually looking at moving my vanity domain to them as I'm sick of chasing standards trying to host it myself. This is absolutely not a ding at Fastmail.

KyleJuneajross3 years ago
I use my own domain with fastmail, so if they were to fail, I could at least keep using the same address. Although I would need to find another provider that supports wildcard addresses going to the same inbox because I've found myself using the pattern companyname@ my domain for each business I give my email to. It makes it easy to block emails if a business doesn't let me unsubscribe or they share my email with spammers.
ajrossKyleJune3 years ago
You realize that "My Domain Got Stolen and the Registrar Won't Fix It" is another whole subgenre of this kind of anecdata, right?

My point is just that there's no free lunch. Everything breaks, but on balance I'd trust Big Tech to get it right more than little companies like Fastmail or your domain registrar.

KyleJuneajross3 years ago
OP's post isn't about his email or domain getting stolen, it's about him getting locked out of his account with no way to get back in. There are many different providers for both email and domains that provide good support. Sure it's possible I could still get locked out of either. I feel like smaller companies that I'm actually paying are more likely to be responsive to my issues than a large company that I'm using for free.
ajrossKyleJune3 years ago
> I feel like smaller companies that I'm actually paying are more likely to be responsive to my issues than a large company that I'm using for free.

"I feel like" is, precisely, the anecdata fallacy at work! You feel that way because you see so many more reports of problems with the big providers. The truth, obviously, is that account management problems like this are present everywhere[1], but the email (or domain) market is dominated by a small handful of players. So you think the tiny ones are better than they are.

[1] Pointing out the pervasive complaints about domain registrars was supposed to drive this home. It's weird you think that somehow doesn't count. All bureaucracies mess up, it's not like email is a special kind of failure.

KyleJuneajross3 years ago
Yea, but there is another difference besides them being smaller. Email is fastmail's primary business. A domain registrars primary business is selling domains. So it's more risky for them to provide sub-par support compared to google where gmail is just one of the many things they do.
jacob019ajross3 years ago
Whoa there, what reasoning leads you to believe that "Big Tech" is more trustwothy than "little companies"?
extasiajacob0193 years ago
> small companies that I'm actually paying
euniceajross3 years ago
I feel like while you're absolutely right, I still have this nagging voice in the back of my head with gmail - a concern that there's this non-zero possibility I could lose access because e.g something i upload to drive gets mistakenly flagged as copyrighted material. Too many eggs in one basket.
malepoon2ajross3 years ago
> All providers mess stuff up occasionally. Everyone has a customer support crisis at some point, with someone.

I think this misses the point. With Fastmail, if they mess up, I can still talk to a human. With Gmail there is no customer support to begin with so you're screwed whenever something goes wrong.

BMoreartyuser39393823 years ago
I love Gmail’s automated inbox categories. Looks like Fastmail doesn’t have that?

(I know I can set up manual filters. I prefer it to be done for me automatically.)

mistrial9BMorearty3 years ago
so, they read and profile your emails, and then categorize that for you, and you love that?

ok, we are different

BMoreartymistrial93 years ago
Are you implying there is any email provider that doesn't have access to your emails?

How does Fastmail determine which ones are spam?

rwalleBMorearty3 years ago
This probably does not help, but...

I used to love that automated categories and had 4 categories. One day I suddenly felt that that was too many and reduced it to two, "Primary" and "Updates" (similar to mail.live.com's "focused" and "other") and found it actually easier to manage my emails. Of course that is still two not one, but just want to say that you might also realize that you don't need so many categories.

BMoreartyrwalle3 years ago
Thanks for the tip. I’m currently at 3 but I get what you’re saying. I might try it.
BMoreartyrwalle2 years ago
Okay I’ve been trying out your suggestion for a week. I think I will keep it.
lawgimenez3 years ago
Lesson learned, don't do unnecessary stuffs while everyone is on holiday.
danukerlawgimenez3 years ago
Which is precisely when you finally have time to do them.
onionisafruitlawgimenez3 years ago
It’s not like Google customer service is going to help on a non-holiday
maxproonionisafruit3 years ago
Is there a customer service at Google? Had no luck with them... once I got an email after they charged me twice for Play Music, but this was canned response. It took them almost 7 months to figure this out and pay my money back.
onionisafruitmaxpro3 years ago
That’s the point I was trying to make. As a user, getting help from Google customer service for something like this seems to be nigh impossible. I assume Google has customer service for their actual valued customers — the ones who spend money placing ads, not the ones who spend attention viewing ads.
marvindanig3 years ago
Google's strategy of locking out people from "everything" is just insane!

Someone needs to lawyer up and make them pay through the nose for stealing access to individual’s personal data that doesn't even belong to them.

CrendKingmarvindanig3 years ago
Even this "someone" wins, if it's not a class action, I doubt any amount of money out of the lawsuit would change anything for a big company like Google. And I doubt case of these could result in class action anyways.
hoffsmarvindanig3 years ago
How is it everything? You get locked out of your account.
Double_a_92hoffs3 years ago
Which in the case of Google is for quite a lot of services...
sva_3 years ago
Do you not have any of your recovery codes left?
hsbauauvhabzb3 years ago
I ran into a bug where the recovery account token wasn’t working. I found no way to contact google about it.

Until there is regulation, you’re probably going to be out of luck.

Double_a_92hsbauauvhabzb3 years ago
As the world gets more and more digital, there really needs to be such regulation. Certain accounts are too deeply ingrained in your digital identity, that they should be able to be taken away from you. At least not without a way to start a proper legal recourse, where real person need to solve your case and at least send you your data. EU do something!
krono3 years ago
Whilst it might not be of help to OP, I suggest everyone else to do a data export for all your important services every once in a while and save it with your other backups.

https://takeout.google.com

https://account.microsoft.com/privacy/download-data

hu3krono3 years ago
Is there something like this for Apple?
theCrowinghu33 years ago
hanklazardkrono3 years ago
For sure. I believe I have this set to create an export and notify me the backup every quarter or so. Not the perfect solution, but until I do the right thing and switch over to fastmail, this at least ensures I can only lose a few months (gulp) worth of email.
grepfru_ithanklazard3 years ago
Having lost a few months of email when my mail server crashed, it’s something you whine about for a day or two but then it’s business as usual.

As with all insurance you pay for what you want to risk. It didn’t hurt me much but I still went to daily offsite backups for my mailserver. The biggest gripe was standing up a new mailserver, make sure you keep your software up to date yall

sneakhanklazard3 years ago
You can move your old emails off of your current email provider at any time even without changing any email settings or where new mails go.

It always seemed silly to me to have the server where your new mails get delivered be the same server as where your email archive lives.

edmundsautohanklazard3 years ago
The part that keeps me up at night - the last few months are likely the majority of emails I care about. So I might recover 99% of past emails, but only get 25% of the value -- recency matters.
hanklazardedmundsauto3 years ago
Yeah, I think this is a great point. My goal is to get my email on a domain I control in the next few months.
grvdrmkrono3 years ago
Interesting idea - follow up question: where/how do you back it up? Looking forward to hearing about your whole system.
jbotdev3 years ago
Hope you get your account back.

I’ve been on the fence about migrating off Gmail, but after reading threads like this, I put a contingency plan in place. Backups of my Google account are done hourly, and I have a custom domain/workspace account so I can move the domain elsewhere if needed.

dpacmittaljbotdev3 years ago
How do you do hourly backups?
jbotdevdpacmittal3 years ago
There are a few open source options out there (e.g. run IMAP backup script via cron). I personally use CubeBackup [1] on a local NAS, which covers mail/drive/photos. I then have a job that backs up that directory off-site using rclone.

[1] https://www.cubebackup.com/

BaudouinVH3 years ago
Is there someone else around you trust and that could read the QR code on his/her smartphone ?
corv3 years ago
Welcome to the club, I've given up on Google altogether.
jjcon3 years ago
This happened to me - I even had access to my recovery mail but google just decided I wasn’t trusted back in my account after I moved to a new country. I contacted every support line I could but alas.

About 3 years later I was magically let back in, no idea why but I would try every few months and it just worked one day. Hope it doesn’t take that long for you.

survirtual3 years ago
There is nothing google will do for you. I had a similar issue here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31681221

I’m still locked out of my account. December 22nd was the expiration of the domain name I needed in order to unlock it, and it is now gobbled up by another squatting service (Bodi), so I will have to try again next year. They don’t even entertain my offers to buy it.

Let our losses be a lesson to people: get off of gmail asap. They do not care about you. They do not care about the harm they are doing, the memories they are sealing away. All they care about is making money off of your data.

Get off google now. As fast as you can.

ryandrakesurvirtual3 years ago
It's now been 0 days since the last "Help! I've been locked out of my account!" story on HN. These have been going on for years and years[1]. The solution is for individual people to stop relying on services that don't have customer support to host critical things. This is now a well-known failure case for free cloud services. It should not be a surprise.

1: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&query=%22locked%20out%22%20account&sort=byPopularity&type=story

vinckr3 years ago
Sorry to hear that, this really sucks. Shows once again how authentication is still not a solved problem.

I switched to posteo.net recently and have not looked back since, can only recommend a paid email provider. Different level of support and assurance when you are a paying customer.

ck23 years ago
If you have it tied to an android phone, even without two-factor, there is a hidden way to generate a code it will take under security

Not all accounts seem to have this but I did. I do NOT have two-factor and eventually the "try another way" method offered to take me through the android code generation and it let me back in.

> *"Sign in With Backup Codes"*

https://support.google.com/accounts/answer/1187538?hl=en&co=GENIE.Platform%3DAndroid

noisy_boy3 years ago
This prompted me to download Thunderbird - was very easy to get started (it basically provided a wizard with some basic inputs and started fetching messages immediately using POP).
moffkalastnoisy_boy3 years ago
Thunderbird? Marty, I'll need to fix the time circuits, we've travelled back to 2006!

But seriously, what's next? Switching to IE from Chrome? Back to MS Office from Docs? The more things change the more they stay the same...

noisy_boymoffkalast3 years ago
One of those isn't the same as others... IE and MS Office are MS products, Thunderbird is still under the Mozilla umbrella.

I guess for certain things we backup to cloud and for others, we backup from cloud :D

BenjiWiebemoffkalast3 years ago
What's wrong with Thunderbird? My workplace uses it, my family's small business uses it, I use it.

Has lots of features, doesn't require a fast stable Internet connection, and there's no risk of losing your emails because $provider locked you out.

Plus if you have multiple email accounts, it's super convenient to get them all in one place.

moffkalastBenjiWiebe3 years ago
Idk, Thunderbird, Outlook, and desktop email checkers in general seem absolutely antediluvian to me. Like CRT screens, trackball mice, and space cadet pinball.

Do you still have to fetch mail manually like a caveman or did they make it automatic yet? Does your mail sync between all your devices? I still think it's less likely to get banned from gmail than my local hdds to fail.

ivanyumoffkalast3 years ago
I'll be surprised of the features modern mail protocols like IMAP have.
spopejoymoffkalast3 years ago
> I still think it's less likely to get banned from gmail than my local hdds to fail

Uhh the whole discussion is about exactly this problem which you've decided won't happen to you because ... ?

Thunderbird rules and isn't going away, and makes things like blocking remote images easy (as opposed to gmail where you lose basic UX if you turn it off so most people don't).

What's more, gmail's basic features have really suffered in the last 10+ years. I search 20 years of email in Thunderbird faster and more efficiently than the bloatware POS gmail is now.

But best of all, I don't use gmail! I never have to worry about the nightmare scenarios presented here and nobody spies on my email (other than the NSA :) )

Oh -- physical backups rule too. From rotating through various drives my email is backed up at least 16 times over.

ddevault3 years ago
I'm getting pretty tired of these threads. We've seen them for years and years and years. At this point, anyone still using gmail is a PEBKAC error. Move!
Havoc3 years ago
Is it my turn next month to post the google's AI security/support fkd me thread?

Anyway, hopefully the google support outsourced to hn channel can help...

evouga3 years ago
Can someone explain how it’s anything but completely insane for an online service to deny access to someone with a *correct* password??

This isn’t someone getting locked out because they forgot their password (where I can at least understand why the user is at fault).

martincmartinevouga3 years ago
2FA exists because sometimes ne'er do wells get your password. Phishing, guessing weak passwords, password reuse from sites that are hacked, the list goes on.
evougamartincmartin3 years ago
Of course I understand enforcing 2FA when the user has signed up for/opted in to 2FA. But that doesn’t seem to be what’s happening here: Google unilaterally decided to enforce 2FA on a 1FA account.
cuteboy19evouga3 years ago
"Old password+new password" is not 2fa
awinter-pycuteboy193 years ago
yes exactly. if G were following best practices from the consumer banking industry, 2fa would be more like 'old password + random row from your equifax profile'
cuteboy19awinter-py3 years ago
And of course, the last 4 digits of your ssn
awinter-pycuteboy193 years ago
'any digit from your ssn'
jacob019awinter-py3 years ago
I would rather not have to live in a world where google uses my credit profile for authentication.
josephcsiblemartincmartin3 years ago
What Google did here isn't 2FA.
sneakevouga3 years ago
I have the correct passwords for gazillions of gmail accounts (that are not mine) because people reuse passwords constantly.
BenjiWiebesneak3 years ago
Give us an example. Which password for which email account? :)
powerappleevouga3 years ago
this is not just happening to Google, epicgames, steam, GitHub, you name it. It is every online service.
kmbfjr3 years ago
Google gave away the Google Voice number I had since the GrandCentral days, a number obviously used daily with purchased credits in the account and religiously confirmed linked number.

Zero customer support, no way to get the number returned and no refund on existing credits for toll services. And to add to the pain, they won’t give me a new GV number because it sees my linked number as a spam source and never sends the confirmation code.

I am done with this outfit.

huh88267kmbfjr3 years ago
What do you mean they gave it away? I don't have a linked number to my GV anymore I just use it for 2fa codes... Is that not safe?

Edit: MAKE YOUR NUMBER PERMANENT if you don't want to lose it due to 6 months inactivity. It's 20$. Also ported numbers are never recycled. I am happy with GV and will always use it.

kmbfjrhuh882673 years ago
They gave it to another GV user without warning, within 24 hours of its last use.

You can not imagine the pain of having to recover the three accounts using that number for 2FA.

mindslightkmbfjr3 years ago
Are there any good VOIP alternatives to Google Voice that don't get tripped up as invalid phone numbers by other companies' snake oil authentication? From what I've found, GVoice is uniquely large and has enough "normie" Google Fi customers that companies can't discriminate the way they do against say Voip.ms and Flowroute [0].

My tentative plan is to get (another) cheap paygo SIM, stick it in a cell modem attached to a server, and set it up to forward all texts to email/xmpp/etc. Use that for all these longstanding snake oil auths.

Then move my main personal number (used to be a mobile number, now at GVoice) to a VOIP service. At which point if someone can't call/text my personal number because they're using some crappy service (eg Comcast mobile), then too bad, they can figure it out.

[0] I figure Twilio is in this same boat, although I don't have much experience with them?

cuteboy19mindslight3 years ago
Everywhere I tried, they discriminated against google voice too
Wichermindslight3 years ago
Try https://jmp.chat . Nice features, excellent customer support.
sneakkmbfjr3 years ago
Wow, that's particularly egregious.
0xbadcafebee3 years ago
I'm sorry this happened to you. I feel lucky that I moved to FastMail + a custom domain before this happened to me! :<
idiocrat3 years ago
Please consider waiting for one day, before re-trying with your valid password. Your account will be auto-unlocked after a cool-off period.

It helped me in the past.

blacklight3 years ago
This is probably the #500 post on HN that reads "help I've been locked out of my Google account for Kafkaesque/inexplicable reasons and I have nobody to reach out to".

If you're still using Google products as your primary drivers, then it's entirely your fault.

Do yourself a favour in 2023: drop Google and all the filthy excrement that they produce. There's plenty of much better alternatives, and from a purely market-based perspective Google deserves to rot in hell for all of its sins and shitty products.

coffeeblackblacklight3 years ago
This, plus if you have no Google Takeout backup.
gatonegrocoffeeblack3 years ago
A few days ago I was going through an old Gmail account, and decided to get my data through Takeout. Told me it'd take a few hours, and the next day I had a link ready. Click the link, enter the password, it tells me I need a verification code that it wants to send to an address that stopped existing 15 years ago.

As it turns out, Google is not sufficiently convinced that I am in fact the owner of the account, so it refuses to let me download the data. I don't feel inclined to spend time trying to figure out this nonsense, but thankfully none of the information in that account is particularly important. I'll take it as a sign that I should just move away from Google, because next time the information on an account could be actually important, and I'd be screwed.

blacklightgatonegro3 years ago
Takeout is a feature that Google was kind of forced to implement because of GDPR compliance. But they still try their best to make it so bad that people won't think of using it.

First, getting to a point where you can actually schedule the creation of a zip takes a lot of clicking around - just to make sure that people won't bump into it unless they're explicitly searching for it.

Second, the process is painfully slow (on purpose). Last time I used it was to download my YouTube subscriptions and playlists to import them into my Piped instance. Even though I only have about 100 subscriptions, and only two playlists with about 20 items each, the process took almost two days to complete. By then I had already made a script that scraped the content from their HTML (and it only took me 5 minutes), and another one that did the same but using the YouTube API. If it takes less than a second to get the playlists and subscriptions of a user, I don't see a single reason why generating a Takeout CSV with the same information should take 2 days. I was determined (and tech-savvy) enough to script my way out of it, but many users just get discouraged and give up the idea of exporting their Google data entirely.

toomuchtodoblacklight3 years ago
If you use a cloud storage provider Takeout supports (Dropbox, OneDrive, Box), it can be configured to auto export on a cadence. I have Takeout scheduled to export every two months to my Dropbox /apps path (you have to renew this schedule every year unfortunately).

> Automatically create an archive of your selected data every 2 months for one year. The first archive will be created immediately.

https://support.google.com/accounts/answer/3024190?hl=en

jsnellblacklight3 years ago
Takeout was created in 2011, well before the GDPR existed or before there was any other kind of regulatory requirement for it.
gatonegroblacklight3 years ago
I tried Takeout on my main account, and I have to say I'm surprised. Took about an hour to process and it allowed me to download everything.

While I was waiting on that, I finally paid for a proper email service and migrated my domain, so I have a copy of my Gmail data and a working, Google-free email service now.

koonsolocoffeeblack3 years ago
Google takeout is horrible. It either doesn't work or partly works.
darkhelmetkoonsolo3 years ago
I remember trying to download an archive of my email a few years ago. Hah, that was fun. I had a number of tries but each time the archive it gave me had between 20% to 50% of the total email messages.

It's been unreliable for years.

Kiroblacklight3 years ago
I'm currently converting so many disgruntled LastPass users to Chrome's built-in password manager. It's fantastic and I love Google. What is your opinion on that?
moistofreasonKiro3 years ago
Onepassword beats both by a mile. Worth every penny.
sgcmoistofreason3 years ago
I have been using KeePass and variants for a long time, and have never had any problems with it on a variety of devices.
hulituKiro3 years ago
> I'm currently converting so many disgruntled LastPass users to Chrome's built-in password manager. It's fantastic

Some people never learn.

grepfru_itKiro3 years ago
Bitwarden/vaultwarden
macrolimeKiro3 years ago
Did you forget a /s?
blacklightKiro3 years ago
Are you aware of the fact that Chrome stores credentials in a simple SQLite database whose encryption can basically be bypassed if the user is logged into the system? https://www.quora.com/Is-it-true-that-Chrome-stores-your-username-and-passwords-in-cleartext-on-your-computer-meaning-if-someone-stole-your-computer-and-it-is-unencrypted-they-have-all-your-passwords-in-cleartext

If you left LastPass because of its security flaws, then using Chrome's passwords is a bit like driving a scooter with a pasta pot on your head because you feel like a normal helmet is too unsafe.

coffeefirstKiro3 years ago
I'd say if something is important—as in it would be a huge mess if you were locked out of it suddenly—it's a good idea to pay for it.

You can switch browsers and search engines at the drop of a hat. Primarily email, password manager, and long term document storage, not so much.

throw0101cblacklight3 years ago
> If you're still using Google products as your primary drivers, then it's entirely your fault.

This is mostly true for any of the free offerings.

If you're paying for the '…for Business' stuff (perhaps with your own domain), then there's probably more availability for recourse and contacts (especially since they're charging your credit card, so they have some form of link to a real human being).

tag2103throw0101c3 years ago
I've had a Google domain for several years hosting my private email, I'm migrating everything to protonmail (including my Companies) in 2023.

FYI- It is the exact opposite. There is zero support without multiple support tickets, their UI is full of antipatterns. I get to pay and not only do they scan my emails (they claim they stopped that practice, sure) they also won't allow Google Workspace (formerly GSuite) to utilize features like Google Family. I have a tertiarty public account that right now I can't access because I'm travelling and have run afoul of the Google gods and in the Admin console zero way to force allow a login. And I'm paying for that wonderful granular control.

I for one hope the wave of GPT based AI wipes them off the face of the internet, they are valueless. Their search is a joke now. They've been adversarial to the user community for years and reminds me the terrible taste of a monopolized- because lets face it that's what they are- ecosystem with ZERO concern or care about their end user. <insert lilly tomlin phone company skit here>

harshalizeeblacklight3 years ago
But realistically how do you do it? I've stopped signing up for any new Google products for well over half a decade now. Even moved my email to protonmail.

I have a little over 500 accounts tied to my Gmail over the last two decades. Moving them is a pain but still possible.

The problem arises when it comes to existing accounts with byzantine financial institutions. Trying to change email addresses that are linked to you as the username is nigh impossible in many cases.

Quite a few institutions won't let you use an email that comes from protonmail or a custom domain. So, many times I'm forced back into using a Gmail address to prevent a whole host off other issues

anonymousiamharshalizee3 years ago
Your point about the inability to change your email address with certain institutions resonates with me. Some companies have no consideration for the possibility that one of their customers might need to change their primary email address.

Last year I was notified by Audi that my email address had been compromised in a data breach. As the spam volume to that mailbox increased, I decided to change it. I discovered that I cannot change the email address associated with my Audi account. When I contacted their Technical Support group, they advised me to delete the whole account (which failed), and create a new one.

badrabbitharshalizee3 years ago
But it is free excrement
nzealandharshalizee3 years ago
Financial institutions are the most frustrating when it comes to email notifications to custom domains. Often times the confirmation email comes through fine, then the email notifications fail to be sent. Luckily with all financial institutions it's easy (probably too easy) to call them up and change your email address.
Beltalowdaharshalizee3 years ago
> Quite a few institutions won't let you use an email that comes from protonmail or a custom domain. So, many times I'm forced back into using a Gmail address to prevent a whole host off other issues

As in, they check "if domain != 'gmail.com' { fuckyou(); }"? Or as in "they MTAs are not very good and just don't deliver email"?

harshalizeeBeltalowda3 years ago
Literally that. If your email domain doesn't come from a set of whitelisted domains (gmail, yahoo, msn, etc.) they just don't let you create an account.

I have accounts in the US, EU and Asia due to family, etc. and this kind of restriction is fairly common in EU/Asia

Beltalowdaharshalizee3 years ago
> this kind of restriction is fairly common in EU/Asia

Interesting; I can't say I recall ever encountering such a restriction anywhere, including banks, and I have or had bank accounts in a number of European (and other) countries. I've encountered other problems, but not this. Not that I'm doubting your experience of course; just interesting I never had problems with it.

ticvikingharshalizee3 years ago
I've lost thousands of dollars of digital content at google. I was really salty about it for a while, but sacrifice is the price of liberty. It is a small sacrifice to not do business with companies that demand I do business with other companies that refuse to provide customer service.

I do a lot more business in cash locally as a result. Finding a good local bank that will let me physically show up to deal with problems with my money was the hardest part due to the massive consolidation in that industry, but the result is that I am more connected to my community and more resilient to many types of problems.

joe__fblacklight3 years ago
I've been thinking to move away from Gmail for a while now, what alternatives do you suggest?
incrudiblejoe__f3 years ago
Stop answering e-mails. No, seriously.
kornholejoe__f3 years ago
First of all, buy your own domain from Gandi.net, hover, namecheap, or wherever you prefer. Then get an email account at a private provider who let's you use your own domain: fastmail, gandi, proton, tutanota.. As long as you keep paying for your domain registration, you are not beholden to a mail provider.
sphjoe__f3 years ago
Fastmail with your custom domain. I am a user, I am not paid to advertise them. I do not miss Google at all.

If you do not like Fastmail, still get your own domain for emails.

Freak_NLsph3 years ago
Migrating to Fastmail is pretty painless too if you already have your own domain.
beardboundsph3 years ago
I moved to fast mail a couple of years ago and got my mom to move to and I’ve been a happy customer the whole time it’s great. I moved when I started getting concerned about how reliant I was on google. Now my core services are spread across several different companies. I also am not affiliated in any way.
harrisonpagejoe__f3 years ago
fastmail.com
kilroy123joe__f3 years ago
fastmail with custom domain
MerelyMortaljoe__f3 years ago
I did with Fastmail and a custom domain name. Very easy (Fastmail has a Gmail import tool), highly recommended.
tag2103joe__f3 years ago
Anything- including RFC 2549 based communications. =)
blacklightjoe__f3 years ago
I've been using Protonmail with 3 custom domains for a few years, but I'm quite upset by the state of their bridge. They struggled a lot with IMAP compatibility, they only test it on Thunderbird, Outlook and Apple Mail before releasing it, and you can't connect to the bridge from another machine (well, you can technically set up an SSH tunnel or use socat to forward the localhost ports, but that's a hack that is not officially supported nor advised).

I'm now considering switching to Fastmail or Tutanota.

Or even run my own mail server. I used to do that until a couple of years ago, but I eventually got frustrated by all the dumb rules that Google and Microsoft (but mostly Microsoft) set in place to discourage people from running their own servers.

However, given the amount of time that I've already spent to debug the Proton bridge and open PRs to fix their sh*t, I must acknowledge that running my own Postfix server and spending a couple of hours to set up the right DNS records would have probably saved me a lot of time (and money).

sphblacklight3 years ago
Let me repeat it for those in the back: If you're still using Google products as your primary drivers, then it's entirely your fault.

Your email is your most prized possession. It is more important than your credit card number. At least you can call your bank if someone steals it. Also, _ALWAYS_ use your own custom domain for emails. Do not host it @someone-else.com

Stop using a free service from a terrible company that can lock you out at any time and, for Heaven's sake, stop recommending it to non-technical people!

Freak_NLsph3 years ago
> […] stop recommending it to non-technical people!

Excepting loved ones, there is not much of a choice is there?

If you help set them up in a way that covers all the basics (personal domain, mail hosted at one of the current batch of paid, reliable parties like fastmail.com), then whenever something goes wrong, or whenever the friction to do something (anything!) is too high, it's not only your fault, but they'll lose trust in anything that doesn't look like a megacorp.

The other alternative is to just point them to Apple/Microsoft/Google where everything just works¹, and when things go tits-up (which, statistically speaking, only happens to a small percentage of people) they'll just blame that faceless megacorp, knowing full well that real choice is limited to those with technical know-how (or direct access to them).

I dislike the status quo, but aside from making sure I and my family aren't stuck like this, I don't see much leeway to change it.

1: It doesn't. But it will feel like it does, which is all that matters, and when it doesn't work, they'll just blame themselves.

650REDHAIRsph3 years ago
Do you host your own email?
forgotpwd16650REDHAIR3 years ago
You can have an email with custom domain without having to host it. Though, even for that, not sure how easy will be for a non-technical person to set up. Maybe there're services making it simple.
pseudo0blacklight3 years ago
Their requirements have gotten pretty insane. I have a couple of old Gmail accounts I used for low-priority stuff (signing up for forums, mailing lists where I might get spammed) and they are both now locked out for "security reasons". I have strong passwords, correctly provided the previous password, have the recovery email, but I jump through all the hoops just for them to tell me to F off. And these are 10+ year old accounts with no issues! Thank goodness I don't use Gmail for my primary email address, I moved that ages ago.
zxcvbn4038blacklight3 years ago
That is pretty harsh. The only way to resolve problems with Google like this is to know someone on the inside that can help, or to generate enough outrage on social media that some service team someplace takes notice and reaches out to help the guy.

What the poster can do in the future is enable 2FA on his Google accounts as that seems to streamline password recovery. At minimum add a phone and backup codes. Even better add a couple yubikeys (and maybe drop the phone after adding yubikeys because phones are super easy to compromise)

Same goes for GitHub.

nzealandzxcvbn40383 years ago
The poster can also be patient. I've been locked out of infrequently used google accounts before. Eventually the account will be unlocked. If you ignore it for a few days (also pretty harsh.)
blacklightnzealand3 years ago
Some people who get locked out of their Google accounts may be unable to use their phones, access their photos, receive and send emails, or do their day-to-day work on shared documents. How can you say "just be patient and wait a couple of days"?
prlambertblacklight3 years ago
"Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation; don't cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer, including at the rest of the community. Edit out swipes." https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
sergiomatteiblacklight3 years ago
What do you suggest? Asking honestly as a long time google user.
wintermutestwin3 years ago
The fundamental problem here is that there is no way to get support from google that is a human being.

I dream of a day when the US government retakes the mantle of consumer protection. Proposed regulation #2 (after eviscerating privacy violation) is that all services must meet certain customer service standards, including having a way to get to a human being.

I know I am dreaming hard here, but there once was a time when consumer protection was on the rise...

jeffbeewintermutestwin3 years ago
> The fundamental problem here is that there is no way to get support from google that is a human being.

No way other than paying a trivial $1.67/month for Google One.

josephcsiblejeffbee3 years ago
There have been past stories here about people who were paying for that but found themselves in situations like OP's anyway, and it didn't help them to resolve it.
wintermutestwinjeffbee3 years ago
Using google, you are already "paying" by giving them your data (which is worth way more than the value of their service)
Doubtme3 years ago
If you don't backup your data in 2022+ it's entirely your fault.

After losing my own 10 year old Gmail and running around the internet hunting down employees for 5+ months only to get a canned automatic response.

I learned to not trust any service. Ever.

I've even been hacked by rouge employees of fortune 500 companies. Only because of my experience I was able to get my account back after being hacked for 5 - 10 minutes.

Backup yo shit fam. - IT guy who has been backing up to 3+ different hard drives since 2008.

HerbstluftDoubtme3 years ago
Losing access to your mail account causes significant and critical damage without ever considering the existence of backups.

Backups don't help with the painful (and sometimes barely possible) migration of your accounts to a new address, updating contacts, loss of mails that arrived after you were locked out, et cetera

DoubtmeHerbstluft3 years ago
Welp that's the product you signed up for.

Much like PayPal stealing from millions of Americans for a full decade+

Can't backup money either. That doesn't stop these policies of zero human support and only infinity robot responses from remaining until today.

Writing a law and getting it passed to curtail this behavior absolute nonsense.

Complaining about the next 1000000 people to lose access without doing 1 single thing about it. Sign me right up!

HerbstluftDoubtme3 years ago
Oh I agree. Gmail is basically a daily lottery for account lockout.

Still important to raise awareness, these posts certainly help and make it harder for google apologists to deny it (a few years ago there was a lot more victim blaming in the comments of these threads).

I felt the need to point it out because backups were brought several times here as a defense against OPs scenario which they aren't.

Brajeshwar3 years ago
This is something I'm not certain but worth a try. I have also advised something very similar to someone who lost their parent's gmail ID access.

If you already have another Google ID or your partner/spouse/relative, upgrade to one of Google's paid service such as the Google One. Now, talk to a human customer care for Google One and seek help. I was able to talk a real person with an issue with Google One and the person on the other end knows a whole lot of details (which I was not expecting to be a regular information).

Yes, that might cost you one month's of Google One but worth a try.

Btw, I have never figure out how to talk to a person even when I have 3+ Google Workspace for Business accounts.

GoOnThenDoTell3 years ago
Its not reasonable to have your primary email be gmail anymore
prlambert3 years ago
The anti-Google frothing here has gotten so extreme it's crossed into comedy. Maybe instead of assuming incompetence and malevolence you should consider how hard it is to do this perfectly.

You don't have to like them, but the fact is the there are many many smart and competent people working on these systems trying to do the best for all users of Gmail and Google Accounts. Every day there are hundreds of very bad people around the world trying to gain access to Gmail accounts to do very bad things using that access. All the worst parts of humanity have found their way to leverage it. Balancing security and user-friendliness is one of the hardest problems in tech and it's impossible to do perfectly.

It seems from this thread that the OP did regain access and it didn't take that long.

Edit: I worked at Google for a few years, including on Gmail, and know that the people there really do care about all these things. But I left in the summer, no longer their employee.

ausbahprlambert3 years ago
if this happened to you I'm sure you wouldn't be thinking "gee they really are just trying their hardest let me cut them some slack". you maybe be right but that doesn't solve anyone's problems like this one
jnky3 years ago
I had a similar problem a while back where Google demanded a second authentication factor for an account that didn't have 2FA set. It asked for a previous password that the account must have had >10 years ago and I think the answer to a security question that I couldn't answer, because I always use cryptic responses to those and apparently didn't save this one way back when. My rationale was that I wouldn't need any of that, because I knew the account password so there would never be a need to go through account recovery.

Either way, I found a solution to that on one of those Google user support forums: I had to not try and log in to the account for approximately 40 days. After that, it'd let me log in with just the password again. This is apparently because Google keeps flagging the account of getting attacked and requiring a second authentication factor for some reason and the timer for that keeps getting reset after a failed challenge for one of the account recovery factors. After something between 30 and 40 days, I could log in to the account with just the password again.

spicymaki3 years ago
I am sorry to hear about that. The state of customer support is really sad these days. If you figure out how to get back into your account, you should make sure you generate physical recovery codes. That should prevent you from being permanently locked out of you account.
usr11063 years ago
A long time ago I created a separate Google account for every of their services. I have the passwords of all of them, but as soon as I try to log in they ask me add my phone number "to make my account more secure". There is no way to click it away or say later. So de facto I am locked out. I won't give my phone number to Google and I don't have a dozen of other numbers. Google is like forced prostitution. You must sell your privacy to their advertising business.

Edit: Have not tried again for quite while. Maybe they change it some day? Well I have given up all hope and try to avoid them as much as I possibly can.

el_nahual3 years ago
Whenever I think about migrating my "primary" email to be at a domain I own, I come up with the following risk calculus:

What's more likely:

A) That i get locked out of Gmail for some byzantine reason I can't get out of B) That for whatever reason (new card, I'm in the hospital, whatever) I forget/am unable to renew my domain and it gets sniped.

mindslightel_nahual3 years ago
You can generally have many years prepaid for domain registrations. So if you make it a point to have between 3-4 years preregistered, and put it on your yearly calendar to check/update that, you will be fine.

The real issue is that whatever registrar you choose can also arbitrarily lock you out of your account. But one would think being a bit smaller company, having less surveillance tentacles into things like phones, and having a less homogeneous userbase would keep them in line.

Fire-Dragon-DoL3 years ago
I'm confused, how could Google ask for the OLD password? Is this even a thing? I have no idea what my old password is.
halilimFire-Dragon-DoL3 years ago
Yes. Google (and probably many other companies at this point) ask for your previous passwords as part of the account recovery flow. It's an additional factor to help establish that it's you and not a scammer trying to "recover" it.

So it's a good practice to save old passwords. Some password managers make it easier by having a password history feature, usually on the account's detail page.

lazyeye3 years ago
Google has no interest in you or your problems.

I recommend watching the "Talks at Google" channel on youtube to see the kinds of things that interest the people at Google.

themadturk3 years ago
I only use Google as a secondary account now, though most of my family continues to use it (under a vanity domain, grandfathered in after lo these many years). I still keep my Google 2FA active, though.

I use pobox.com to forward my primary domain. Right now I have mail forwarded to their "mailstore," which is essentially a lite version of Fastmail.com (Fastmail owns POBox, or the other way around, don't remember), but I can forward to multiple mailboxes. It costs $50 a year, just like Fastmail, but I think it's a little more flexible, at least for my needs.

yleethemadturk3 years ago
>I only use Google as a secondary account now

I've never had Google as a primary email account. I do have a few Gmail accounts, but that was to reserve them with my name, as opposed to ever giving the addresses out.

>I use pobox.com to forward my primary domain

Customer since 1996 and primary email address since 1999 because my college address closed at graduation. Since then my email has been hosted at ISPs, at various other providers, and at a Google Apps site, but it doesn't matter because the pobox address never changes. My college address works again, but I've long since used the pobox address in too many places to mass migrate away.

Years ago, before it got "corporatized", Pobox's FAQs had one entry that went something like:

Q: How do I know you'll be around in the future?

A: How do we know you'll be? Ha, didn't think of that, did you?

Wicher3 years ago
Incidentally, another Ask HN today was about running your own mailserver:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34117386

villgax3 years ago
I'm guessing you didn't pay for it so there is no hope in this case
powerapple3 years ago
I feel sorry for you.

Someone at Google PLEASE, PLEASE, make it enough for a registered phone number to reset the password. I got my phone number with my passport, it is the last thing that don't need any verification. Why is it not necessary? AND stop sending verification email to the email address I am recovering. It is a sick joke.

spopejoypowerapple3 years ago
Guess you've never been simjacked
powerapplespopejoy3 years ago
no, and it is not something I worry about to be honest.
IYasha3 years ago
You're not alone in this sh*. I'm here too. And there are dozens of threads here with the same problem. May the Universe help us.
P5fRxh5kUvp2th3 years ago
I have two gmail accounts and one of them did that to me several years back.

But both accounts do nothing but forward to my fastmail account where I have rules setup for them. So it was a giant nothingburger for me. If they're so secure even I can't log into them, whatever.

I don't trust google with anything of mine. I used to use their online spreadsheet app to track house bills, but moved it to my local share where I use libre office instead, solely because I'm aware of how likely it is I get locked out of everything at some point.

Everyone should treat google like they treat their laptops: With the assumption that it can die at any given time and so backups are critical.